As you all know recently a post from my blog on Teej was published on the newspaper as an article. It was a great feeling, everyone complimented me and congratulated me on that occassion and your support means a lot to me. Honestly it was my first article and I'm no Writer or Reporter neither a Journalist so I did think it was a tad bit amateur, however the response was very much positive or I'd like to think so and it has encouraged me to do more writing!! SO gear up for more people :)
And along with the positive notes and comments there always follows a certain sort of criticism(?) I'm not sure what to call it as I don't actually take it as one...more like a suggestion or an advice and I was so amazed by the responses in the newspaper the following day after!
First of all, I have nowhere mentioned that Fasting or the celebration of Teej has been forced by men, I have just given my understanding and opinion on the occasion of Teej and how the society that has been created is very much Patriarchal in nature and by patriarchy I want to clarify to my dear friends that Patriarchy is not just related to men. Women can be equally patriarchal in nature. It is a concept which has been ruling not just Nepal but the whole world where Male supremacy is given importance. And the concept of Patriarchy has been so much drilled in our systems since childhood, that giving up that concept and embracing a complete new one is a challenge for us. So women who have been fasting, or have been told to fast for most of their lives cannot just discontinue what they are following. And I agree it is their belief and I respect that. But within that we need to understand how women are being made dependent. And I have no where mentioned how Fasting is a way of suppression,what I meant to say is how societies makewomen believe in doing something where they need to put themselves in the inferior category and believe that the male are supreme is a sign of suppression.
And then comes the whole issue of faith. What faith are we establishing here. The faith that if we pray to God we have our wishes granted? or the faith that you work hard and honestly for what you want and you get rewarded? This I think has been a critical debate issue in cultures worldwide. Issues related to faith and religion. As to what we are told to believe in, what faith or what religion means to us are merely taught to us by society and our elders. As change is inevitable, I think with time, cultures change, religions change and so do faith. And my point here is do we keep our faiths intact with no room for change and a breath of fresh air or do we start our own faith? the faith of being HUMANE, the faith of humanity and nothing more complicated.
Last but not the least, I have plenty of friends who are well-educated, aware and feminists and they still do celebrate Teej, but not by fasting or sticking to the age old practices. And yes I have asked about what Teej means to women and most of them have replied saying to get good husband, its like thats all they want from their lives. Its like the age old American Tradition of women conceptualizing themselves and good housewives. That was their aim, and that was all they wanted: a good-loving husband, a good family. Also most women have replied saying, we have to do it as in there is no option. Everyone in the family does it so even if we don't want to do it, we have to. The issue of force does come here again!
One of the reason for Teej is for women to get together and have a good time, eat good food, sing and dance together as in ancient times, women after getting married weren't given the freedom to visit their parents houses. So many women and men or even the society might argue that Teej was established as a way of giving women independence and it was solely for women, but as the recent lecture I attended by Kamala Bhasin, she said something that touched my soul; A day's freedom? Is that what women are worth of? IS that what we women want? It did made me think and I feel it should make you think too.
so what the women have to slog for the rest of the year and theres just this one day that they get to celebrate their independence by eating the previous day and fasting the next day for the longevity of their husband? I'm sorry but that doesn't sound any logic to me.
I know I'm not a gender expert but I am getting there, and my writings might be very premature but what I write is what I feel. These are just my opinions and point of views which everyone might not have a liking to. I am pretty much straight forward and I say things the way I see them and the way I analyse them to be. All in all I'm pretty much glad that atleast I got some responses otherwise I wouldn't be writing again :)
And as I always end with a positive note: comments,criticism(i honestly wouldn't want to put it that way) advice and suggestions are always welcome.
And along with the positive notes and comments there always follows a certain sort of criticism(?) I'm not sure what to call it as I don't actually take it as one...more like a suggestion or an advice and I was so amazed by the responses in the newspaper the following day after!
First of all, I have nowhere mentioned that Fasting or the celebration of Teej has been forced by men, I have just given my understanding and opinion on the occasion of Teej and how the society that has been created is very much Patriarchal in nature and by patriarchy I want to clarify to my dear friends that Patriarchy is not just related to men. Women can be equally patriarchal in nature. It is a concept which has been ruling not just Nepal but the whole world where Male supremacy is given importance. And the concept of Patriarchy has been so much drilled in our systems since childhood, that giving up that concept and embracing a complete new one is a challenge for us. So women who have been fasting, or have been told to fast for most of their lives cannot just discontinue what they are following. And I agree it is their belief and I respect that. But within that we need to understand how women are being made dependent. And I have no where mentioned how Fasting is a way of suppression,what I meant to say is how societies makewomen believe in doing something where they need to put themselves in the inferior category and believe that the male are supreme is a sign of suppression.
And then comes the whole issue of faith. What faith are we establishing here. The faith that if we pray to God we have our wishes granted? or the faith that you work hard and honestly for what you want and you get rewarded? This I think has been a critical debate issue in cultures worldwide. Issues related to faith and religion. As to what we are told to believe in, what faith or what religion means to us are merely taught to us by society and our elders. As change is inevitable, I think with time, cultures change, religions change and so do faith. And my point here is do we keep our faiths intact with no room for change and a breath of fresh air or do we start our own faith? the faith of being HUMANE, the faith of humanity and nothing more complicated.
Last but not the least, I have plenty of friends who are well-educated, aware and feminists and they still do celebrate Teej, but not by fasting or sticking to the age old practices. And yes I have asked about what Teej means to women and most of them have replied saying to get good husband, its like thats all they want from their lives. Its like the age old American Tradition of women conceptualizing themselves and good housewives. That was their aim, and that was all they wanted: a good-loving husband, a good family. Also most women have replied saying, we have to do it as in there is no option. Everyone in the family does it so even if we don't want to do it, we have to. The issue of force does come here again!
One of the reason for Teej is for women to get together and have a good time, eat good food, sing and dance together as in ancient times, women after getting married weren't given the freedom to visit their parents houses. So many women and men or even the society might argue that Teej was established as a way of giving women independence and it was solely for women, but as the recent lecture I attended by Kamala Bhasin, she said something that touched my soul; A day's freedom? Is that what women are worth of? IS that what we women want? It did made me think and I feel it should make you think too.
so what the women have to slog for the rest of the year and theres just this one day that they get to celebrate their independence by eating the previous day and fasting the next day for the longevity of their husband? I'm sorry but that doesn't sound any logic to me.
I know I'm not a gender expert but I am getting there, and my writings might be very premature but what I write is what I feel. These are just my opinions and point of views which everyone might not have a liking to. I am pretty much straight forward and I say things the way I see them and the way I analyse them to be. All in all I'm pretty much glad that atleast I got some responses otherwise I wouldn't be writing again :)
And as I always end with a positive note: comments,criticism(i honestly wouldn't want to put it that way) advice and suggestions are always welcome.
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